Security (Peace)
Security for Your Spouse
Establishing and maintaining harmony in our relationships and providing freedom from fear or threat of harm through expressions of vulnerability , deepening of trust, and the successful resolution of conflict. (Romans 12:16,18)
Have you ever had a day that was just insane? Running here, running there, struggles at work, struggles with getting the kids back and forth from activities they have, quick stop at the grocery store with hungry kids in tow, get home, unload the groceries or pick up that “honey do” list you’ve been working on, get the kids started on homework or do some “home work of your own” from your day job, get dinner in the oven, eat dinner, baths for the kids, prayers and tuck them in bed, then…… you and your spouse just fall in front of the TV!
You could have different senerio’s at this point. You could check out as you watch a show, checking your devices during commercials, totally absorbed in yourself OR you could sit close to your spouse, snuggle up, breathe…ahhh…security. In the chaos of what life can bring at times you can have complete security with your spouse as you come together as a refuge for one another. This sounds like a recipe for feeling secure even if you fall asleep …. together.
Sure we all have those days but wouldn’t it be wonderful to know that our spouse is our refuge when the stresses of the day overflow? How do we get to that point where our spouse is our security in the midst of stress or turmoil?
Let’s Walk in the Light of Jesus – He is the Light of the World (John 9:5)
Isaiah 41:10 Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
This is Jesus! Our Lord is with us therefore we have no need to fear! He knows us! He is our God! He gives us strength. He helps us and upholds us. God gives us assurance that all is strong and secure.
He is God! He doesn’t have to assure us…. yet He does. Are you walking through a valley currently ? Well, fear no evil for God is with you ! (Ps. 23:4) Think about it. God, The Almighty One is with you, walking with you at this very moment. He is extending peace that surpasses all understanding to you.(Philippians 4:7) Will you take it? Will you rest in it? He wants to be your refuge, an ever present help. (Ps. 46:1)
What is your response to His offer of His peace and presence?
Learning to trust your Father can help you learn to trust your spouse too. After all, your spouse may be the agent God has given as His means of helping you know you are not alone in the daily stresses and victories, as well as the major life events!
How could you let your spouse know that you see him/her as God’s key agent of peace in your life? How could you be God’s agent of peace/security in your spouse’s life?
Let’s Walk in the Light of God’s Word – It is a Source of Light for Us (Psalm 119:105)
Psalm 16
A miktam[a] of David.
1 Keep me safe, my God, for in you I take refuge. 2 I say to the Lord , “You are my Lord; apart from you I have no good thing.” 3 I say of the holy people who are in the land, “They are the noble ones in whom is all my delight.” 4 Those who run after other gods will suffer more and more. I will not pour out libations of blood to such gods or take up their names on my lips. 5 Lord , you alone are my portion and my cup; you make my lot secure. 6 The boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places; surely I have a delightful inheritance. 7 I will praise the Lord , who counsels me; even at night my heart instructs me. 8 I keep my eyes always on the Lord . With him at my right hand, I will not be shaken. 9 Therefore my heart is glad and my tongue rejoices; my body also will rest secure, 10 because you will not abandon me to the realm of the dead, nor will you let your faithful[ b ] one see decay. 11 You make known to me the path of life; you will fill me with joy in your presence, with eternal pleasures at your right hand.
In this Psalm David talks about feelings of security in his relationship with the Lord. No matter what life may bring, as believers we can rest secure that God has our back. What a wonderful Savior we have. We can sing in the shadow of His wings. (Psalm 63:7)
Will you take a few minutes to reflect on Psalm 16 and search out other scripture that specifically speaks to your heart about your security in Christ? John 10: 27-30 comes to mind.
When you are ready, will you think of simular ways you can feel this same security with your spouse? What would that look like for you? What would you need from your spouse to feel secure?
A little side note about the word miktam. (This Psalm is a miktam of David)
Miktam comes from the term that may mean “to cover.” It could mean a covering of the lips (a silent prayer), or a prayer that someone might be covered with protection. Cover can mean “atone for.” Miktam may mean a psalm of atonement.
I liked the word “cover.” When I think of security from my spouse I actually visualize him covering over me, protecting me. I think the same with my Savior.
Let’s Walk in the Light of Real Fellowship with Our Spouse – We are the Light of the World, Too. (Matthew 5: 14)
Choose a good time to share with your spouse. Perhaps after the kids are in bed you can sit with your spouse and each share what makes you feel secure. Maybe you can share a time when your spouse really came through for you and helped you feel such a strong sense of security during a time when you needed it most. I bet your spouse will feel encouraged as you share. 🙂
Date Conversation / Coffee Talk: Plan a Date Night!
- Would you share with your spouse what you experienced in your time with God in Psalm 16 and other scripture God revealed to you about being secure in Christ?
- Would you discuss how the need for security was met in your home of origin? Let your spouse know how it was or was not met and what impact that had on your family or on you.