Carrying Each Other’s Burdens

Greetings!

How does it feel when someone notices the “work-load” you are under
and helps “lighten your load”?  When that happens, we feel supported and loved, don’t we?  What words and ways do we use to communicate Support to those we love?  We have some ideas for you to consider and would love for you to take a few minutes this week to discuss Support with your spouse.

Also, we have added a couple of questions to encourage conversations with or about your children that may help them feel supported.  We hope you find this Q4K (Questions for Kids) feature helpful, and we value your feedback on its effectiveness!In this email, you’ll find the “Need of the Week”, which highlights one of the Top Ten Relational Needs.  Our “LOVE(Speak)” section contains five questions crafted to enhance communication as a couple.  We have also included some “Getting Started” suggestions if you need a little direction as you begin.

Please don’t hesitate to let us know if you have any questions or suggestions for us!

The TBI Ministries Team

Getting Started

Be intentional about setting aside a few minutes this week or planning a date night to discuss Support together.

Husband, would you lead this time by reviewing the statements to be completed or questions being asked so that you know how to make the most of your time? When you are ready, please initiate a “Love (Speak)” time with your wife.

Need of the Week

Support 

To come alongside and gently help carry a load 

Galatians 6:2 Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ.

Jesus was with his disciples through celebration and challenging times and left His Spirit.  John 14:18

LOVE(Speak)

1.  What fun activities do you have planned to do as a couple in the near future?  How does taking the initiative to plan fun times with your spouse help him/her feel supported and perhaps “lighten the load”?  If you have nothing planned, think about what your spouse might enjoy and either spring it on him/her, or if your spouse is not a spontaneous person, then ask for a time in the near future where you can schedule your fun time together as a couple.

2.  Ask your spouse, “What do you have going on in your life that I could help accomplish or carry part of the load and communicate real support to you?”  If they are willing to receive the support, then “just do it”!

3.  Without Asking:  Notice something your spouse is doing or trying to accomplish and take some of the burden from him/her or do something else that would free some time for your spouse to work on that priority.
4.  How does helping your spouse with their need for support fulfill the “law of Christ” mentioned in Galatians 6:2?5.  How was support communicated in your home during your growing up years?  Was Dad supportive of your Mom or vice versa?  Did parents support you or your siblings during high-stress times at school or elsewhere?

Q4K: Questions for Kids LOVE(Speak)

1.  What fun activities do you have planned to do as a couple in the near future?  How does taking the initiative to plan fun times with your spouse help him/her feel supported and perhaps “lighten the load”?  If you have nothing planned, think about what your spouse might enjoy and either spring it on him/her, or if your spouse is not a spontaneous person, then ask for a time in the near future where you can schedule your fun time together as a couple.

2.  Ask your spouse, “What do you have going on in your life that I could help accomplish or carry part of the load and communicate real support to you?”  If they are willing to receive the support, then “just do it”!

3.  Without Asking:  Notice something your spouse is doing or trying to accomplish and take some of the burden from him/her or do something else that would free some time for your spouse to work on that priority.
4.  How does helping your spouse with their need for support fulfill the “law of Christ” mentioned in Galatians 6:2?5.  How was support communicated in your home during your growing up years?  Was Dad supportive of your Mom or vice versa?  Did parents support you or your siblings during high-stress times at school or elsewhere?

Q4K: Questions for Kids Whether or not you have children, there is probably a “Child of Focus” in your neighborhood, extended family, or at church that could use some focused, quality time with an adult.  Could you be that adult?  Please don’t ignore your own children to help others.  Like the airline attendant at the beginning of the flight warns us, make sure you put on your own oxygen mask before helping others.  What if we make sure our own children know that they are our Children of Focus before we go out to help others?  Deal?  Deal!

1.  What are your children experiencing currently that may be somewhat or very overwhelming for them?  How could you support them in their times of high stress? 2.  What part might being a good listener or praying with them play in being supportive of your children/Child of Focus?

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