Do You Do This Alone or Will You Have Help?

Do You Do This Alone or Will You Have Help?

Check out the Beatles song at the end of the article. I think they needed help with staging??!!!

Knowing we need help comes easily for most of us, but there are some who simply won’t ask for support until the bitter end. Support is a relational need common to all. If anything can literally remove aloneness, giving support to another by coming alongside them would do it. Coming alongside them both to help with a task and doing it with a caring attitude would move the heart as well as help them physically!

Support Defined:

Coming alongside and gently helping with a problem, task, or struggle; providing appropriate assistance

How can the need for Support be met?

1. Ask if help is needed giving the other the option to accept help or not
2. Take some of a person’s regular responsibilities so they can finish a new one
3. Just offering help may be all the support a person needs or wants at the time
4. Sharing the load
5. Joining in rearing children, doing household tasks, doing the taxes, etc
6. Dividing responsibilities so that they match more with what each enjoys or is better at. For example, Carol enjoys inside work, and I enjoy outside work.
7. Changing roles when time or other variables require it.
8. Making sure your spouse knows you are in it for the long haul-not going to leave

What if the need for Support is met?

1. When the need for Support is met, we feel much more a part of a team rather than two people in two different worlds.
2. We feel needed and wanted and important in the relationship.
3. We avoid frustration in having to do too much or more than we can handle.
4. We prevent feelings of resentment.
5. We are included in the success of the project avoiding jealousy.
6. We are not alone
7. Intimacy in other areas is fostered when we meaningfully support one another

What if the need for Support is Not met?

1. If the need for Support is not met, both emotional and physical exhaustion may create problems in the relationship.
2. The task may not get done or may be done poorly.
3. The time to complete the task may be extended.
4. Especially in the area of parenting, support by both parents brings the opportunity to parent in a healthier way as both give input and care.
5. One or both may feel they are in the relationship by themselves creating fear and anxiety.
6. The one who feels unsupported may feel very much alone.
7. The one feeling unsupported may struggle in other areas of the relationship

How did/does God provide caring support?

1. God gives us the resources to meet our needs not leaving us alone.
2. Jesus offers us salvation and comes to live in us in the person of Holy Spirit.
3. He promises to never leave us or forsake us. We may not always be aware of it, but Jesus doesn’t quit or abandon us.
4. God asks us to call on Him and He will answer. Jeremian 33:3
5. Jesus invites us to come when we are weary and burdened to find help and rest. Matthew 11:28-30
6. God wants us to help carry other people’s burdens as a way to demonstrate His love. Galatians 6:2

So, do you need support / help /someone to come alongside you? Have you asked for help from others in the relationship/family/marriage or been specific about the help you need from them? Do they even know you want help?

Do you have a relationship with God and know He wants to be your Father, giving you life eternal, as well as power to live this life abundantly and with real purpose? Would you start by reading John 3:16, Romans 3:23, Romans 6:23, and Romans 10:8-10 then in faith call on the name of Jesus and ask Him for mercy, forgiveness and new life. The Gospel of Jesus Christ (explained in 1 Corinthians 15:1-7) is the key to eternity with God. Jesus came, lived a perfect life, died to pay your sin debt and mine, then rose from the dead. The support you need may be introduced through others but ultimately comes from the heart of God. He is love.

Romans 1:16 reveals the importance of believing the Gospel for our salvation, but there’s more. This Gospel (Good News) is better news than we imagined because once received as Savior, Jesus becomes the author of a new life (John 1:11-13) with not only joys and privileges but also power and promises. 2 Peter 1:1-15

Holy Spirit lives inside us giving us power to live and wisdom to know we need help and support. That’s what the church is all about! The body of believers (church) you attend should be that for you as you can give support to others. John 14:15-18