Security (Peace)
Establishing and maintaining harmony in our relationships and providing freedom from fear or threat of harm through expressions of vulnerability, deepening of trust and successful resolution of conflict. Romans 12:10: 1 Peter 2:17
Jesus promised to be with us “even to the end of the age”.
Matthew 28:20
Feeling Secure is key to a marriage relationship. Knowing that there is harmony gives each partner confidence to hope for even more intimacy in the years ahead. Security sets us up for simple, growing love since – “I believe deeply that you are for me, not against me”.
A Worthy Goal: (a little Encouragement from TBI) 🙂
Don’t stop investing wisely into your marriage until your children and friends envy your relationship and want one like it.
Set aside a few minutes this week or plan a date night to discuss Security together.
Husband, would you lead this time? Get prepared to lead by reviewing the questions below? When ready, please initiate a “LOVE (Speak)” time with your wife.
LOVE(Speak)
1. According to research, the number one thing many women want in their relationships is to feel secure. Wives, do you agree with this? Husbands, do you see this to be so in your wife?
2. Take a few minutes to think specifically about what security means to you. Make a mental or written list of three to five things that help you feel secure and then share them with each other. Are your lists similar?
3. What things on your spouse’s list surprised you? What are some ways you can attempt to meet his/her need for security as he/she listed?
4. Is your home the place where you feel the most secure? What is it that makes it so, or not?
5. How secure did you feel in your childhood at home? Are there any triggers that cause you to feel insecure? If so, do they come from past experiences? What connections are possible to past and present times of insecurity / security?
What About the Kids? Ask your kids/child of focus these questions or discuss the following concept of Security with other adults revealing what you have observed in your child(ren).
1. What are some signs that indicate your child is / is not feeling secure?
2. When you have opportunity, ask your Child of Focus if there is anything he/she is currently facing that makes him/her afraid or insecure (i.e. bully at school, test that is coming at school, friends that are not acting like friends, being able to hear arguments between friends or family, etc.).
3. How can your involvement help build security in your Child (Children) of Focus?
*Notice how these apply to children of any age…even adults.