Never Alone Again – Why Waste Time?
I know many men and women who can trace some of their significant relational obstacles to their growing up years. They don’t hold tons of anger about their past, but they do recognize that the way they were loved well or not loved well either propelled them into healthy relationships or created real relational difficulties with spouses, children, parents, or even with co-workers.
Recently in a conversation with a friend it became obvious to both of us that he fit the category of growing up in a “good home” but rarely, if ever, feelng known, loved or accepted. I get it. Many of our parents simply didn’t know how to reach into the heart of their spouse or their children. Generations have been impacted negatively by the lack of expressed love.
I know, I know. You may stop reading here thinking I am simply going to dump on parents, but I am not. There are many legitimate reasons why too many of us grew up in “good homes” where we were provided a roof over our heads, food on the table, and clothes to wear but came away with little to no closeness. Why, we may have even been indulged with stuff far beyond essentials, but those “things” did not replace the intimacy, warmth, and tenderness missed in our time with family. The point I want to make is that regardless of excuses others use to not love us well on a heart level, being left alone and unknown hurts, damages, and gives us obstacles to overcome.
Why is that such a big deal that we overcome those obstacles and learn how loved we are and how to give love away freely? I am glad you asked. I am convinced that those obstacles that were presented either from neglect or from abuse can and must be identified and healed so we can better fulfill the two most important commands in the Bible. God’s powerful Holy Spirit can and will guide us to know real love and get good at expressing it.
Over the next few weeks I will address from scripture what some of those obstacles are and give some steps we can take in conjunction with prayer and submission to God’s clear Word on how we can not only identify some of those mountains to climb but also how to “cast them into the deepest part of the sea”. We will activate plans dealing with some of the following:
- June 7 – Unresolved hurt-I Can’t Forget What They Did
- June 14 – Unresolved guilt-I Can’t Forget What I Did
- June 21 – Anxiety/fear-I Can’t Trust the Future
- June 28 – Self-condemnation/Shame-I Must Be Worthless
- July 5 – Anger and bitterness-I Won’t Let Them Get Away with It
I think I can set them up so that each article is a stand-alone but will fit into the theme of how to continue to be ” a nice person” but not have to settle for being alone any longer.
Join me? Jesus makes all things new….He really does.