When you were a kid, what do you remember most about your parents? Do you have a memory of a strength you saw in mom/dad? What about a weakness? Did you feel loved, or was love shown based on performance or on good behavior? You may not even realize this, but when you leave your parents’ home you take along your childhood bag of stuff!
This bag of stuff may hold a bunch of negative emotions that you buried long ago – past hurts, unmet needs, pressure to be (fill in the blank) in order to receive love, unmet expectations, love that was conditional. Your bag also holds positive emotions, parents that entered your world, gave support, loved unconditionally, met your emotional needs in a healthy way.
We leave home with this unseen bag slung over our shoulder and unknowingly try to find a way to replicate what “we know!” What “we know” may be unhealthy or healthy, but we expect those in our circle of influence to either plug up the hurt holes or love us the same way we are used to! Rarely does that happen, right? You see, people we meet also have their own “bag” slung over their shoulders and are looking for love too. We often look for our needs to be met, unaware that we are even searching.
Listen, Mom and Dad did the best they knew how, but that doesn’t change the fact that you may have needs that were not met, and naturally you may try to meet them as an adult. Love may become conditional for you. You may start looking for “what” someone will do for you. You may start nagging and complaining when your loved one doesn’t meet your need or expectation, playing the same relational game that you are used to – even when it hurts!
God wants to heal your hurt, friend! Only God can heal the deepest hurt and give you a spirit of truth, instead of the lies you may be believing. Will you let Him in? Invite Him into the area of your pain that maybe you have not allowed anyone in to see? God is a miracle worker for sure! He can take your broken pieces and put them back together! Allow Him to give you a true view of what your life can be!
Think about it:
Jesus did miracles, not only physical and spiritual ones, but also emotional and relationship ones.
Since He, Jesus, is the same yesterday, today, and forever, He is not limited to first century miracles. He can do 21st century miracles too! Ask Him for one and then faithfully wait to see how He delivers.
Start with asking Him to heal you of the scars and pain left over from how others left you alone or unloved, then move to ask for healing of the scars and damages you caused by the sins and wrong choices you made. Hebrews 12:1-2
Jesus does these kinds of miracles every day! Need help getting there? We’d love to come alongside you if you wish. Jesus’ miracles happen in our lives, so we know He can do great things for you too.