Home security systems, security blankets, social security, homeland security, breach of security, security measures – all of these phrases evoke different pictures of what “Security” can entail. They all have to do with safety, a feeling of protection or a reaction to feeling vulnerable or unprotected. This week, please take some time to discuss your thoughts about Security with your spouse, and let’s focus on learning their definition of this need.
In this email, you’ll find the “Need of the Week”, which highlights one of the Top Ten Relational Needs.
Our “LOVE(Speak)” section contains five questions crafted to enhance communication as a couple. While you’re at it, don’t forget to check out our “Q4K” section, offering questions to use as you talk about these relational tools with your kids!
We have also included some “Getting Started” suggestions if you need a little direction as you begin.
Please don’t hesitate to let us know if you have any questions or suggestions for us!
The TBI Ministries Team
Getting Started
Be intentional about setting aside a few minutes this week or planning a date night to discuss Security together.
Husband, would you lead this time by reviewing the statements to be completed or questions being asked so that you know how to make the most of your time? When you are ready, please initiate a “LOVE(Speak)” time with your wife.
Need of the Week
Security (Peace) Harmony in relationships; freedom from fear or threat of harm.
Romans 12:16, 18
LOVE(Speak)
1. When you were growing up in your childhood home, did you enjoy a secure environment where you felt safe, protected, and cherished?
2. How do you feel about the safety of your marriage and the security of your future together?
3. How does the way you speak and listen to one another add to or take away from your security? Would praying together as a couple or a family help increase the security of your relationship?
4. How would spending more time with your spouse or investing in ways to show that you care for him/her build security in your relationship and add to harmony? Do you need help? Do you know where to get help if you need it?
(If you do not know where to turn for help, maybe we could help. At least we can try.
5. Does your spouse know that you are “in this marriage for the long-haul”? Have you told him/her that you are determined to love well and grow in your relationship with God and in your marriage? What difference would it make to you if your spouse told you that?
Q4K – Questions for Kids: Your Child of Focus may be from your own family or from another family where your support and influence could be invested.
1. Can you think of a few things you could do that are simple and effective at helping your Child(ren) of Focus know security and freedom from harm in their relationship with a loving adult – you?
2. Listening well, good eye contact, appropriate touches, giving a soft answer while explaining boundaries of behavior, and caring involvement don’t cost money but they may pay huge dividends. How good are you at giving these gifts to your Child of Focus? Your answer may be the key to security or insecurity in a child’s life.