Security (Peace) Establishing and maintaining harmony in our relationships and providing freedom from fear or threat of harm through expressions of vulnerability, deepening of trust, and the successful resolution of conflict. Romans 12:16,18
A Worthy Goal: (a little “Truth in Love” from TBI)
Don’t stop investing wisely into your marriage and family until your children and friends envy your relationship and want what you have…. “faith expressing itself in love” – Galatians 5:6.
When a husband holds his wife close and she lays her head on his shoulder, that is one snapshot of security. He feels trusted and she feels protected, creating calm sense of security. What a concept – our marriage and family becoming a place of security and a haven rather than another battleground. Let’s pray and work toward our home becoming a place of real security for us and our kids.
Have a great week!
Sincerely, Dave Lewis The Basic Idea Helping Leaders Live Loved and Give Love Freely….Starting at Home!
Set aside a few minutes this week or plan a date night to discuss SECURITY. Husband, would you lead this time? Please be prepared to lead by reviewing the questions below. When ready, please initiate a “LOVE (Speak)” time.
LOVE (SPEAK) Light Source #1: Fresh Encounters with Jesus Christ
Please Read Hebrews 13:4-8
4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.5 Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.“[ a] 6 So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me?”[ b]7 Remember your leaders, who spoke the word of God to you. Consider the outcome of their way of life and imitate their faith. 8 Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.
After reading this passage, quietly listen to Jesus’ voice as you ask Him, “Does your promise – ‘ Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.’ really apply to me?
Thank Him for making your future secure with His love and presence.
Light Source #2: Frequent Experiences in the Word (Do The Book)
Let’s Do: James 1:19 – 22
1. How do you feel about the safety of your marriage and the security of your future together?
2. How does the way you speak and listen to one another add to or take away from your security? Would praying together as a couple or a family help increase the security of your relationship?
3. How would identifying things that need to change about your life and asking for prayer build security in your home? We are discovering that speaking truth to each other and admitting our need for help is building security…not tearing it down. Sometimes we think others don’t know we are hurting or dealing with a heavy issue, but it shows. What if we become “doers of the word” and not just hearers? Maybe this is what is needed instead of sweeping stuff under the rug hoping it will go away or yelling at each other until the other is exhausted.
Light Source #3: Other Jesus Followers – Have Real Fellowship with Your Spouse
Would you talk with each other about these items below and above during a date night or coffee time or just lying in bed?
4. When you were growing up in your childhood home, did you enjoy a secure environment where you felt safe, protected, and cherished? Would you explain some of your struggles in the home origin or at school or work and allow your spouse to help rebuild the security that may have been lost?
5. Does your spouse know that you are “in this marriage for the long-haul”? Have you told him/her that you are determined to love well and grow in your relationship with God and in your marriage? What difference would it make to you if your spouse told you that? Would you go first?
Now — What About the Kids? “Ask – Listen – Respond”
1. Can you think of a few things you could do that are simple and effective at helping your Child(ren) of Focus know security and freedom from harm in their relationship with a loving adult – you?
2. Listening well, good eye contact, appropriate touches, giving a soft answer while explaining boundaries of behavior, and caring involvement don’t cost money but they may pay huge dividends. How good are you at giving these gifts to your Child of Focus? Your answer may be the key to security or insecurity in a child’s life.
Encouragement—It’s in the Book!!
Romans 12:16,18 (16) Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position.[a] Do not be conceited. (18) If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.