Dear (Contact First Name),
This week, we’re discussing Respect. The men reading this might be really glad we’re going to talk about one of the things that’s high on their priority-needs list. Or they may be thinking, “Respect… again? Haven’t we been over this? ” As a woman reading this, you might be thinking, “Great. Can we skip this week? I really need Support right now… Not another lecture on how my husband needs to be respected.” Whatever perspective you bring to this week’s discussion, let’s take a step back and see if we can learn something new about our spouse, and maybe about ourselves, as we talk about meeting the need for Respect.
In this email, you’ll find the “Need of the Week”, which highlights one of the Top Ten Relational Needs. Our “LOVE(Speak)” section contains five questions crafted to enhance communication as a couple. While you’re at it, don’t forget to check out our
“Q4K” section, offering questions to use as you talk about these relational tools with your kids!
We have also included some “Getting Started” suggestions if you need a little direction as you begin.
Please don’t hesitate to let us know if you have any questions or suggestions for us!
The TBI Ministries Team
Getting Started
Be intentional about setting aside a few minutes this week or planning a date night to discuss Respect together.
Husband, would you lead this time by reviewing the statements to be completed or questions being asked so that you know how to make the most of your time? When you are ready, please initiate a “LOVE(Speak)” time with your wife.
Respect to value and regard highly; to convey great worth
Romans 12:10
1. Think of one or two ways you’ve noticed your spouse respond or show that he/she feels respected by others. If you can’t think of ways, please ask.
2. In what circumstances and situations do you feel respected? …. Disrespected?
3. What can your spouse do to help you feel valued, highly regarded, or of great worth to him/her?
4. Did you feel respected and valued in your home as you grew up through your first 15 or 16 years? Describe how respect was or was not shown. How do you feel your children (if you have them) would rate you on how well you, as a couple, respect each other? If you do not have children, how would those who most closely observe your marriage rate your level of respecting your spouse?
5. How did your parents respect or disrespect each other? …. Their parents/your grandparents? Which of these methods do you want to make sure you duplicate and build upon for a healthy way to respect your spouse? What parts do you want to make sure you avoid, replacing them with healthier ways of giving and receiving respect?
Q4K: Yours or Others’
1. Rather than try to discover tons of options to demonstrate respect for your Child of Focus, perhaps we can simply work at listening better. How often throughout the day do you take some time to listen to your child(ren)?
2. Taking time to be with each child without others around may be a bit scary at times, but this one-on-one time may be the best medicine for a child who feels under-valued or disrespected. Let’s try it.