Security (Peace): Establishing and maintaining harmony in our relationships and providing freedom from fear or threat of harm through expressions of vulnerability, deepening of trust, and the successful resolution of conflict. (Romans 12:16,18)
My husband is my biggest security guard!! He does honorable things like place himself on the street side when we walk together, makes sure that I am covered by the umbrella when it rains, puts his arm across me in the car if he has to make a sudden stop, stays by my side in crowds because he knows that is not my favorite environment, reaches for my arm or hand to hold as we fall asleep or has me call him upon my arriving when driving a long distance alone. He is always watching out for me.
He makes me feel physically secure, but he also makes me feel secure emotionally. Meeting my need for security emotionally means making me feel I matter, I am important, and that his love for me doesn’t change no matter the circumstances.
Helping meet the need for security can be done in a variety of ways. Though both you and your spouse may have a high need for security, each may feel that need met in different ways. If you know your spouse has the priority need for security, the best way to know how to meet that need for him/her is to ask!
Jesus – The Light of the World: (Jesus Meets Our Need For Security)
Isaiah 43:2: When you pass through the waters,
I will be with you;
and when you pass through the rivers,
they will not sweep over you.
When you walk through the fire,
you will not be burned;
the flames will not set you ablaze.
This verse has helped me get through some rough spots in life. There have been times when nothing made sense yet I put trust in God knowing that He will hold me through it. Knowing God promises to be with me makes me feel secure!
How about you? Maybe you need this verse today? We are not promised that we will not experience difficulties, but God does promise to be with us through it all.
His Word – A lamp and a Light
Let’s do:Romans 15:5-6 May the God of endurance and encouragement grant you to live in such harmony with one another, in accord with Christ Jesus, that together you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.
I love that, “With one voice!” For believers, our marriage is a reflection of Christ to the world. Imagine what your marriage would tell the world if, as one, you glorified God in all you do? How we treat one another can show His Light to others or it can show our sinful nature and our selfishness.
If you are meeting the needs of your spouse regularly the by-product will be security with one another and security in your marriage.
You And I Are “The Light of the World” – Jesus Said So.
Your marriage being an example of Christ’s church can feel like such a huge responsibility and in a way it is. Husband’s you are accountable to God for how you treat your wife; and wives, the same for you! It boils down to treating one another with love and putting his/her needs above our own.
This is not easy, friends, and in reality it goes against our old nature to put our wives/husbands needs above our own. At times we may feel we “deserve” _(fill in the blank)_______________, but God tells us to deny ourselves. This takes practice so give grace to one another.
Knowing what our spouse needs starts with a conversation. “Hon, what do you need in our marriage and from me?” Listen well and take to heart what your spouse answers, then put it into practice daily. Repeat this conversation every now and then to be sure you are making progress or need some tweaking.
Being a safe person for your spouse, and children for that matter, to approach or in whom they can confide is a big deal in a world where insecurity and distrust runs wild! Resolving issues – with help where needed – may help your spouse feel security in your marriage. Too many know conflict but too few see conflict truly resolved! Let’s reverse the trend and meet the need for security where possible!!