Sorry, Kiddo, But You Are Stuck WITH Me!
Definition of Security: Harmony in relationships; freedom from fear, threat of harm or abandonment.
Security can be demonstrated in some of the following ways:
1. Not threatening you. I am going to be a safe person for you. I won’t hit you or mistreat you physically. You can feel secure with me. I will try to protect you and not harm you.
2. Not harming you in any way. Not only will I guard you physically, but your heart is safe with me. I will learn what means love to you and how to help you feel secure. Where it is possible for me to do that, I will.
3. Setting appropriate limits and reasonably enforcing them. Whether it involves money or time or tasks, we will work together or get help to find a solution to any-and-all ongoing disagreements about money, time, parenting, or task management, etc.
4. Providing for needs. I will use our resources as our resources and not appropriate them to prioritize my needs over yours or our families. Since the love of money is the root of all kinds of evil, we will make sure that we prayerfully and wisely seek God’s will on how your resources and my resources are viewed as His resources and used accordingly to benefit those for whom we are responsible.
5. Not losing temper at you. Let’s learn how to talk to each other by speaking truth in love early in our relationship or as soon as possible. Let’s get help if needed to start now to set aside times to talk about our schedules for the coming week, coordinating our calendars to support each other during high-stress times, and praying together for each other and our children or family members
6. Being dependable. Keeping promises. Particularly, as it involves our marriage and family, let’s remember the promises we made and assess how we are doing at keeping them. If we aren’t doing well, let’s get help from our heavenly Father in prayer and study of His Word, and/or from trusted mentors and counselors.
7. Providing training. If some of my responsibilities are beyond my understanding and capabilities (such as parenting, being a godly spouse, keeping up with talks around the house that fall under my area of responsibility) help me learn how or let’s get help from those who really know what they are doing.
Security says, “I’m here for you. We’re going to work this out. I’m going to keep my promise to you. I’m not going anywhere.“
I heard a man say to his wife during a skit, as his wife was packing to leave him after they had argued, “Where are you going? She replied, “I’m leaving you!” He immediately grabbed his suitcase from the closet and began throwing his clothes into it. She asked, “What are you doing?” He said, “If your leaving, I’m going with you!”
Love is a wonderfully beautiful gift but with many enemies. Loving is God’s way of relating. Satan our enemy is a liar and seeks to divide and conquer. Let’s stop him from dividing and conquering us in our relationship with Jesus and with others. As much as possible let us build security and peace by being part of the solution not the problem.
Country music pulls the emotions of “without” versus “with” in human relationships about as well as any genre – in my opinion. Life lived unloved is “alone”. Life lived truly loved is abundant especially when received and returned in kind..