“Vulnerable Communication!” ” I Trust you.”
Enemy: Fear
Two of our grandchildren used the phrase, “What ‘dat noise?” when they heard a strange sound? In fact, one of the two actually said more like, “What ‘dat a noisey?” Too often our words are just noise in an already noisy atmosphere. With a little help from our friends, I bet we could get better at communicating both in speaking and in listening adequately and appropriately. So much in our relationship depends on whether we can say what we mean and listen to understand what the other person is really saying. Willing to try? Let’s Go!
Be intentional about setting aside a few minutes this week or planning a date night to discuss Vulnerable Communication together.
Husband, would you lead this time by reviewing the statements to be completed or questions being asked so that you know how to make the most of your time? When you are ready, please initiate a “LOVE (Speak)” time with your wife.
LOVE (Speak) — You might need a Bible for this one!
1. How does Proverbs 15:1 impact your thoughts regarding communication as a couple?
2. In what ways would an understanding and healthy practice of Ephesians 4:29 help replace hurt with healing and any distrust with confidence in your marriage?
3. How would “fear” be a hindrance to Vulnerable Communication? How has fear hindered your ability to communicate vulnerably with your spouse?
4. Would you pray with your spouse or on your own the following prayer: “Father, would you help me to use my ears to listen before I put my mouth in gear to speak – wherever possible? Would you help me to use my words to build up, encourage, and bring peace wherever those are needed…especially with my spouse and family?
5. How has fear stopped you in the past from speaking the truth in love to someone for whom you cared deeply?
Note: How has the 52 Week Plan helped deepen the level of Vulnerable Communication in your relationship with your spouse or other family members? If you don’t mind, would you comment on our Facebook or reply to these installments at other times to let us know if/how this tool is helping with intimacy and friendship? (Links below)
Questions to ask the kids!
1. Would you and your child share examples of times when words from someone else made you feel loved and encouraged? How about sharing another time when words hurt or discouraged you? Please remember to “rejoice” or “mourn” as appropriate. Do Romans 12:15
2. Who in your early childhood and teen years provided a good model for vulnerable communication-they revealed what was going on inside them and they listened to discover what was really going on inside another? Guess what? You may have just given an example of Vulnerable Communication for your child.