Acceptance
Receiving others willingly and unconditionally (even when their behavior has been imperfect) and loving them in spite of any difference that may exist between you.
Romans 15:7
Here we are at the beginning of another trip through the Top Ten Relational Needs, and we are so glad that you decided to join us on this journey! Let’s take advantage of this new beginning to learn how to love our spouse and family even more, equipped with a better knowledge of how love is communicated and received.
Be intentional about setting aside a few minutes this week or planning a date night to discuss Acceptance together.
Husband, would you lead this time by reviewing the statements to be completed or questions being asked so that you know how to make the most of your time? When you are ready, please initiate a “LOVE (Speak)” time with your wife.
LOVE (Speak) —
1. When you were a child, how did parents typically respond to you and your siblings when one of you “messed up”?
2. How would you have liked for them to respond, when you messed up?
3. From a favorite song, tale, book, or movie would you explain a part of the story-line or ending you would like to be true in your life – in some ways, even if it could not happen exactly?
4. The Question: Would you tell me something that happened recently that made you feel happy, special, or fulfilled? Please ask your spouse.
As your spouse answers the question, be ready to “rejoice with those who do rejoice”. Romans 12:15a leads me to respond to my spouse, “I am so glad that happened to you.”
5. The Other Question: Would you tell me something that happened recently that made you sad, disappointed, or hurt? Please ask your spouse.
As your spouse answers the question, be ready to “mourn with those who mourn”. Romans 12:15b leads me to respond to my spouse, “I am sorry that happened to you. It makes me sad to see how much that hurt you.”
What About the Kids?
1. Think of a time that your Child/Children of Focus disappointed you or made you sad. Have you expressed to them how they made you feel by their action? Have you reinforced the truth that you love them despite the disappointment? That might be a good way to illustrate acceptance of them.
2. Perhaps settling a conflict and letting your Child/Children of Focus know that even though you and your spouse or friend were at odds for awhile, you have worked through it and have healed the relationship. When two people have discussed it, asked for and given forgiveness, and continue to love each other, valuable life lessons are taught in conflict resolution and acceptance. Do you have some examples to use with your child even if you cannot use names?