Ten Relational Needs*
(Addressed by Jesus)

Acceptance – deliberate and ready reception with a favorable positive response, even after failure (Rom. 15:7). (Jesus accepted Peter even after Peter’s failure. John 21:17)

Affection – to communicate care and closeness through physical touch and words  (Rom. 16:16).  (Jesus had compassion and loved his disciples to the end.  John 13:1)

Appreciation – to communicate with words and feelings a personal gratefulness for another (I Cor. 11:2).  (Jesus welcomed children-was not bothered by them.  Mark 10:14)

Approval – expressed commendation; to think and speak well of (Rom. 14:18). (Jesus commended the Roman centurion for his faith.  Luke 7:9)

Attention – to take thought of another and convey appropriate interest and support; to enter into another’s “world” (I Cor. 12:25). (Jesus left the Father to enter our world.  Philippians 2:6-8)

Comfort (empathy) – to come alongside with word, feeling and touch; to give consolation with tenderness (Rom. 12:15).  (Jesus wept with friends.  John 11:35)

Encouragement – to urge forward and positively persuade toward a goal (I Thes. 5:11, Heb. 10:24). (Jesus sent his disciples out to do kingdom work.  John 14:12)

Respect – to value and regard highly; to convey great worth (Rom. 12:10).  (Jesus valued the adulterous woman brought for judgment.  John 8:10-11)

Security – confidence of harmony in relationships; free from harm (Rom. 12:16a).  (Jesus promised to be with us “even to the end of the age”. Matthew 28:20)

Support – come alongside and gently help carry a load (Gal. 6:2).  (Jesus was with his disciples through celebration and challenging times and left His Spirit.  John 14:18)

*List was adapted from Intimate Encounters Workbook, page 12; Relationship Press, P O Box 201808, Austin, TX